叶公好狗

仔仔买新车了。我们在Mazda 3, Matrix, CR-V 和 RAV4 之间做选择。仔仔从开始就想要一个五门的，“空间要大，将来好搬东西”，还要省油。我就开始嘲笑仔仔，你要搬什么东西？像足球妈妈一样搬一车的孩子？但是买车的时候一只想象中的狗获得了一些发言权。我说要将来有了狗，最好还是买大一点的CR-V或者RAV4。仔仔说Matrix的后座可以放平，前座也可以放平，“我再把车窗放下，那个狗就可以把头伸出窗外了”。我听着就乐了。仔仔知道我想要一只狗，他已经去研究了狗的书，狗的录像，向同事讨教了养狗经验、训狗秘笈。现在又在活灵活现描述狗在车里的举止神态，好像这只狗已经来了一样。

最终还是买了一辆黑色的Matrix。我说跟我的车一个风格，我的是一辆黑色的Sports Wagon。仔仔说，“哦？你的车不是蓝色吗？”

John Barrowman's What I know about men

John Barrowman没有什么高深的观点，但他的话直接了当，让人发笑之后又觉得舒心地可爱。

http://www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2008/sep/07/women.relationships1

I moved to the UK in 1990. Scott, my civil partner, is British. I think I prefer British men to American men. British men have changed over the past few years. They are beginning to take care of themselves and hell, nothing beats a foreskin. A lot of Americans are snipped at birth, Jewish or not.

Matthew Mitcham (2)

我关注的澳大利亚跳水小将马修居然一举夺得10米跳台冠军。其实我没有看这场比赛，是仔仔向我实时报导的这一消息的。马修是一个公开的同志，我在赛前就知道他的男友也获得了资助到北京给他助阵。




这时的他跟我第一次贴的照片已经大不相同；小帅哥已经留了一点点胡须，让他脱离了小屁孩的阵列。不过在采访记者的镜头前面他还是那么稚气毕现，一会亲吻他的母亲，一会儿仰脖亲吻比他大好多的男友，恩爱之情溢于言表。他在同志问题上大大方方的表现无疑给了习惯于回避同志话题的人（包括同志在内）一个大开眼界的机会。



同志圈里面似乎一直都有一种悲观的情绪，认为幸福偏爱直人，而同志只有在性上可以找到一些寄托。马修的阳光心态有力地支持了一个相反的观点：同志也可以幸福，也可以像常人一样光明正大的活着（这当然也要有社会进步做为基础）。马修今年只有20岁，他的生活是否能继续像现在一样顺利还有待观瞻。但至少他的心态和他周围的环境可以保证他可以像常人一样追求自己的幸福；有常人一样的烦恼也不足为怪。

仔仔的一个朋友临时性的失去了工作。同志在美国是面临很大压力的。不仅要靠自己的努力站稳脚跟而且在择偶方面困难重重，而这些忧愁又不能与人分担，不Depressed才怪呢。

因为绿卡快拿到了，同事提醒我赶快结婚。他想当然地认为我有一个“女”朋友，哈哈。不过凡事有弊也有利，因为无法通过同志婚姻获得绿卡，同志在择偶的时候通常动机更“纯洁”。不过这也是没有办法的事情。

我今天的悲惨遭遇

牢骚一下我今天的悲惨遭遇吧。 牙医上次说我有cavity要给我fix. 我于是今天上午去看牙，结果让我等了半个多小时。然后中年男牙医就来了，他说我有两处，要不要一起fix了，我说好省得麻烦。他拿了跟酒精棉球一样的棒棒在我嘴里左涂一下，右涂一下。我心道不好，我认出来，这是要打麻药的先兆，但是一切都太晚了。这个该死的医生就拿起注射器，恶狠狠的扎进我的牙龈深处。

好不容易过了第一关，中年女护士来了。她拿来一个橡皮膜，说这是我们的新技术，罩在你的嘴上，只露出要fix的牙，不用碰到你嘴的另外一个地方。结果套上了之后，她又拿来一个金属夹子把橡皮膜一撑，我的嘴巴就被撑的大大的，而且只能张着，更糟糕的是我的舌头被压在下面，本来就麻了，现在连动都动不了了。我咕噜咕噜想说话，那个该死的女护士说我听不明白，就拿来一个便笺和笔，我可怜巴巴的在上面写下了我的遗言 --- i cannot speak. 护士拿走了便笺便不再管我了。

快弄好的时候了，印度人打电话来。我倒是接了，可是舌头根本不管用，印度人小心翼翼地又重新报了一下他的名字，问你是不是在睡觉来着，我好不容易挤出了几个字说，i am with a dentist.

后来发现被门口的大妈charge了我170大洋。我说我不是有保险吗？她说，你的是Basic除了洗牙之外什么都不cover。奶奶的，亏了，我觉得我一年之中也就洗洗牙罢了。早知道我就上个Comprehensive 的了。回来想，下回我去挖苦一下他们：我在国内加急补了两颗牙才收我600人民币，他们在这儿做个这么简单的活却要170美金。等着瞧吧，下一步就该把病人outsource了。一些保险公司已经把病人送去国外做 medical vacation了，付了机票还狂省一大笔。

某些人说不屑于写一句话Blog。哼，有心人才把每一个灵感捕捉下来，无论是写在手背上，餐巾纸上，还是Blog上。被我驳得无话可说了罢，哈哈。

小翔的新战袍

小翔的新战袍设计的很像 .....


肚兜嘛。小肩膀过于粉嫩了吧，哈哈。

Out There!

Our gay vice mayor addressed attendents

Listening to the speech at History Center

Listening to the Mayor

June 28th welcomes the first pride festival in our town. So i decided to pull out my camera and get a sneak peak of what is going on there, and hopefully unnoticed. Well, first i was in the wrong place. There is another cultural festival at downtown. Fortunately, the LGBT people set up a table at the cultural festival. As I started scanning the material on their table, the guy told me that the pride festival is two blocks down, like he knew what i was looking for. On the way there, i prayed that i won't be seen by any acquaintance and mentally practiced what if i am seen. "i can pretend i am there just for photography." "if i am confronted, i will just politely end the conversation without addressing the question."

Luckily, there were no serious accidents except two episodes: first, i met on the way there, an acquaintance who was accompanied by her husband. we said hello to each other without stopping. I hope she did not realize that i was heading to the pride festival (she was not). Second, i met a fellow/friend who i have suspected lesbian on site. I can tell she looked at me astonished, and probably thinking, "is he ...?". But she is much senior than me and has a record of being friendly to the young. So i am not so afraid of coming out to her, especially that she was there herself with her partner, who i thought was a women (but a second sight seemed to suggest otherwise... i cannot really be sure).

Well... the festival was really what a festival should be. I can tell people were very happy, like in a festival. I am also very thrilled to see a blend of age, gender, race, and body types.

While the festival showed a liberal side of the town. I also realized the general intolerance of homosexuality. I searched the news on the pride festival. The only two comments I saw there, "since when did being a pervert become something to be proud of?" "I'm glad I wasn't in Lexington today with my children. Their often public display of affection is disgusting." Needless to say, these moral judgments are refutable. As most fear are caused by lack of knowledge, so is homophobia. Those who have LGBT among their friends/relatives are much more comfortable with homosexuality; this is exactly why such pride events should be there -- it lets people know who we are in real life.

Two cute hotshots walked to the vice mayor

Two bears gently hold their hands

Two lesbians relaxed, moment after one danced to the music

People listened to the speech.

Mathew

He is cute and he competes in Olympics. Read his story here.

MATTHEW MITCHAM is brave enough to dive from a 10-metre platform for Olympic gold and courageous enough to do what no Australian athlete has done. ....

Months out from the Games, Mitcham has taken the courageous step of revealing his sexuality to the media for the first time, in an exclusive interview with the Herald.