By us, I mean Chinese gays in US (CGIUS). After meeting up a gay couple who has been here for many years, it started to occur to me that America is increasingly difficult for Chinese gays to survive.
Many of us came to U.S. under the illusion that we can finally break away from our parents and relatives and live free, like the Internet novels once suggested. But soon we realize that things are not as rosy as we think. The No.1 challenge, at least to those who still subscribe to CRN-type thinking, is to maintain a stable relationship. As the job opportunities dry up in this once a land of opportunities, many of familiar faces leave U.S. for china. This makes it increasingly hard for the remainders to find a partner.
A huge disadvantage, compared with heterosexual folks, is that we cannot get green-card on a marriage basis. Therefore, for a Chinese gay couple to make a living in US., they have fight their green cards on their own. This is no top of the challenge of finding love interests, and finding jobs in the same city. The situation for Chinese gays are desperate - we are a quickly vanishing species.
On a different note, a new wave of Chinese kids start pouring in to U.S. colleges and high schools. A portion of them are destined to stay and explore this land. However, it is probably challenging for older guys to connect with these much younger fellows. Unless we reach out to this newer generation, we will become a shrinking social island soon to be forgotten.
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